Back to Square One


In our family the “Forever Farm House” is now being referred to as the “Imaginary Farm House.”

After nearly 6 months of working with the builder, the bank and the county, yet another challenge presented itself.  I have had it.

The county finally approved our deed and we met with the lawyer last week and officially have the land squared away in our name.

However, we met with the bank last week and the news wasn’t as good.  Since our loan had been applied for so long ago, the whole loan had cancelled out and would have to be totally redone.  On top of that hassle, a few other things didn’t pan out like they originally did and our monthly payments were going to be more than we were comfortable with.

That was the last straw.  Not one single thing has happened smoothly throughout this whole process and Neil and I decided to take that as a sign from the universe, this was not the right path.

We decided to cut our losses.  We had already invested quite a bit of money, and time,  into the builder and loan, but everything was telling us to just start over.

I was originally super upset, but after a few days to think things over, I feel at peace with everything.  We have learned quite a bit throughout this whole process and will use that wisdom to make a better decision for the future.

We have already met with a different builder and have a meeting scheduled with another possibility next week.

Despite having such a hard time with the house, we have been enjoying more days off together than normal.  Now that the weather has warmed, we have been trying to go on a hike once a week and Denali has been so enjoying those trips.

Last week we took a little trip to Childress Vineyards in Lexington, NC.  I sent lots of love to the awesome folks I met while I travel nursed there as I drove past the hospital.

The winery was so much fun.  It was such a beautiful place.  It has a fabulous bistro we ate lunch in and got to enjoy a wine tour and tasting.


After our bellies were full of fresh food and wine, we headed to a nature preserve near the Yadkin River and hiked through super steep trails.  It was so nice to be together as a family with only the woods and river surrounding us.


As a new week begins, our schedules are full of work, friends and responsibility.  I am hoping the coming weeks bring clarity to this farm house situation, I have been waiting for more than half of my life to live on our forever farm.  Let’s get on with it already!

Until next time…



11 thoughts on “Back to Square One

  1. It takes some real depth of character to do what you two have done, to tally the delays and losses and reconsider the options. To forge ahead in a fresh direction will open the energy back up. I like the patience you have, despite your report of not feeling it sometimes!
    Respectfully, Mame

  2. Oh wow, I feel for you. We got our farm just by the skin of our teeth… as in just hours of wiggle room. We were the same way. We’d been looking for about 2 years. We’d been banging our heads against a brick wall for about a year… If it hadn’t worked out like it did we weren’t going to pursue it anymore. Fortunately, it worked out. I know you will find your piece of home and you will be so happy that you waited for it 🙂

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